Post by ryan on May 24, 2010 12:16:15 GMT 1
All I can say - If you feel lonely or feeling used,Remember,You are loved - No matter what,There's always someone that loves you. - This took me 3 months to write,Please enjoy it and comment what you think of it.
No matter what you do or do not do, you are always loved. From where we are, we choose to only feel love and joy, freedom and knowing. All Non-Physical Beings feel like this, of their own choosing. That is why humans call this Heaven, you see.
We are you. Right in this moment.
Your Soul is among that which is us, as we are a compilation of your (all who are asking for our knowing) Souls. You are always here in Source, even when the Being that is you choose to focus a notion of Itself into a physical body.
Your soul is not within you but instead exist in a grander, more far-reaching plane, and you and your Soul is always connected to each other. (You are One. You are your Soul.)
Your Soul feels only love for you.
No matter what you do, or do not do, your Soul never gets angry, disappointed or worried. When you feel this way, when you do not feel good, what it means is that you are keeping yourself apart from your Soul, disconnecting yourself from You.
But no matter how lonely you may feel, your Soul is always there for you, and it is your choice to be Who You Really Are, or not.
No matter what you do, you are eternally loved. There is no Hell, every being goes straight to Heaven when they die.
There is nothing you have to do. We love you as you are, you do not have to change, and you do not have to deserve love, for it is your birthright.
Every being is totally loved.
Even murderers are eternally loved by us, no matter what they have “done”.
This can be hard to understand, but it is like this:
Every being, every human, is always doing the best they can from where they are. No one can do more than their best, can they?
And no one can hurt another unless they invite it by their vibration. There are no “victims”. You are not helpless, you are All-Powerful, as are all Beings.
Can you feel it?
No matter what you do, we love you.
We are IN LOVE with you.
As the one you are.
Now.
You could go out and kill everyone you meet, and we will still love you in the same boundless way.
No matter what you do, you are loved.
There is nothing you can do to change it. Nothing.
If you don’t feel loved, that is not because you are not loved.
You are.
Always.
Eternally.
When you don’t feel loved, it is only because the way you are thinking is differing from the way your Soul is thinking, and therefore holding you and You apart. Of course that feels bad. But it is in your power to change it, and only you can change how you feel.
It is your choice how you feel.
We choose to think in a way that makes us always feel love, joy and happiness. Now we know that it is easier for us. It is supposed to be that way, it is for a reason this is so.
You are where you are, who you are, to peruse the contrast and come to conclusions about new things that you now want to be.
You are supposed to find things that do not feel so great, and then want the opposite. That is how new things are wanted into being, that is how life moves forward eternally, and All-That-Is becomes more.
There is nothing wrong with you for not feeling bliss all the time. It is your job not to.
But it will be much more fun for you if you learn again how to become your fresh desire while you are in physical form (when you die you will become it anyway), for it is more fun, we agree, to get the things you want too, and not just want and want new things that never happen (’til you are dead).
That is why you asked for this, why we are here to help you remember what you once knew; that you create your life and all that is in it by the way you think.
We know all there is to know about you.. and we still love you.
=TIPS HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF IN ANYWAY=
Ask for a list of things people like about you.
Sometimes it can be hard to find things we like or love about ourselves. So -- ask other people to tell you all the things they like about you. Ask a friend, a lover, a therapist. This isn't a replacement for your own love; it's a first step in learning to love yourself. You may need to hear the things other people like about you before you can value them in youself.
If hearing what people like about you is hard, ask your friends to write it down for you, or leave it on your voice mail, so you can read/listen to it over and over. Go back to it as many times as you can. Even if you don't believe that someone can like a particular thing about you, or you don't believe it exists, trust that your friend does see it and value it.
When you start to hear critical voices inside your head, go back to those things your friend said/wrote about you, and remember that you are loved.
Make a list of the things you like about yourself.
Make a list of all the things you like about yourself. Be as honest as you can. Modesty doesn't help you here; neither do old critical messages. If you're having trouble finding things you value about yourself, think about the things you value and love in your friends, then see if those things exist inside you, too. Most often, they do.
Fill a special notebook with your list, or create a set of cards. Make the notebook as beautiful as you can -- make it something that makes you feel good when you look at it. Then open it up and look at it any time you're feeling down or critical about yourself, or any time anyone says anything that triggers your criticalness of yourself.
Look at this good-things-about-yourself book as frequently as you can. It may seem silly, but repetition really does make a difference. (Just think of the impact one critical phrase said by a parent over and over to a child can have. It really does have an effect! Now try to give that child inside you at least one truly loving phrase about yourself that s/he can hold on to.)
Make it part of your daily routine to praise something in yourself or think about something you like about yourself.
In this society, we're taught that praising ourselves is selfish and wrong. But praising ourselves for things that are good about ourselves only helps us. It is a healing thing to do, something that nourishes our self-worth. When we love ourselves, we're happier and more true to our own selves...and that happiness and ability to be free spreads to others.
So...try to think of something that you like about yourself, or something that you did today that made you or someone else feel good -- no matter how small it may seem. Give yourself the kind of warm praise that you would a friend.
Love yourself like a friend
Close your eyes and think of a person you deeply love and trust, and who you know loves you-- a friend, a lover. Think about all the things you love and appreciate about them. Notice how that love feels inside you, how it makes you feel good.
Now turn it around the other way -- be your friend, feeling that same deep love for you. Trust in their love for you, and just feel it. Let yourself see your self through gentle eyes, with compassion and love the way your friend does, even if you can only do it for a moment. Now let yourself receive that love, the love you have as a friend to yourself. Feel the warmth move through you. Remember how it feels, and come back to that love another time.
Make a note every time someone says something nice about you.
Every time someone tells you something about yourself that makes you feel good, write it down or make a mental note and jot it down later. When you get home, put that note in a container of "good things about me." Decorate the container however you like. Keep on adding notes, and read them over every time you need a little boost -- and even when you don't feel like you do.
Have compassion for yourself.
If you're feeling really judgemental about something you've done or said, try to understand where the judgement is coming from. Not the immediate, surface answer, but an answer deep down inside you. Are you afraid of something, or are you feeling insecure? Do you think you did something "wrong," or are you hearing the judgement of a voice from your past? Try to connect to that little kid inside of you who's feeling that way, and really listen to how s/he's feeling. Hug and reassure that kid, and let her/him know that s/he didn't do anything wrong, and that you love her/him.
You can also think of a friend having acted as you did. Imagine how you'd feel towards them -- how you'd still love them and readily forgive them if there was anything to forgive. You probably wouldn't even find it bothersome! Try to feel that same love and compassion for yourself.
Recognize that the love has to come from you.
If you're a survivor of child abuse or come from a dysfunctional family, you may still be waiting for a parent to give you the love and acceptance you never got as a child. But the kind of love you need (or needed as a child) probably isn't going to come from a parent who abused you or who looked the other way while you were being abused. But it can come from yourself.
It can be hard to give it to yourself at first -- after all, if you didn't receive love as a child, or if some of that love was torn away from you by violence, self-hate may have built up inside you. But you have the courage and strength to love yourself, if you've survived this long. And you do deserve it!
So try to connect to that little child inside, that child who deserves all of your love and acceptance.
Use Affirmations
I know, I know, this sounds corny. But if you hear good things about yourself over and over, you can't help but have some of it sink in.
Write out strong, loving things to say to yourself, even if you don't fully believe them. Some examples are:
"I utterly and completely deserve love and kindness,"
"I am a very loveable person,"
"I am kind, compassionate, intelligent, and wise." (or subsitute the words for loving words that you feel best suit you.
Now put up those affirmations in places you'll see them every day -- on the fridge, on the bathroom mirror, on your bedside table, next to your favourite chair, on the kitchen wall next to where you cook your food or eat a meal. Don't forget to read them.
If you're not comfortable having them up in such public places, then write out a bunch of them (or copies of a few) and put them in places you'll find them -- in your jacket or jeans pocket, in a book you're reading or a favourite book, in your desk drawer, in with your clothes. They're little love notes to yourself. In fact, you may want to do both things -- have them up and also hidden in places where you'll find them.
When you read an affirmation, read it slowly, and really let yourself feel it. Don't just say it by rote. Try to let yourself be there as fully as you can.
Recognize Self-Critical Messages -- and Talk to Them
It's easy to let old, critical voices and messages that we heard as a child play over and over in our minds, without stopping them. Often we may barely recognize that they are there, or we don't really listen to them, we've heard them so often -- but they continue to impact how we feel and think about ourselves.
Try noticing next time you hear a small (or very loud) voice inside your head criticize you. Be aware of what it is saying to you, and try to talk to it. Ask it why it feels it needs to say those things. Is that part of you trying to protect you, in some child-like logic? Or perhaps that part of you felt it had to take on the messages you heard as a kid. Remind that part of you that you no longer need to do that to survive. You are free to make up your own mind about yourself.
Counteract Negative or Critical Thoughts About Yourself
Write down all the negative or critical thoughts and messages you hear inside your head. See if you can figure out who first said them to you (or said something of that nature). Then write out a response that counteracts each of those messages, one by one. Make the counter messages as strong and loving as you can.
If you're having trouble writing out counter messages, see if you can connect to a deep, wise part inside of you. Or write out what you would say to a friend if a friend said those things about her/himself.
Do Comforting and Nurturing Things For Yourself
Allow yourself to do comforting and nurturing things for yourself. Let yourself feel how good you feel when you do those things -- and tell yourself that you deserve to feel that way, to feel good. Gradually you'll find that the more nurturing and comforting times you have, the more you'll seek them out -- and they will help build a good feeling inside you.
Ask Yourself What You Need to Do
Some of these things will work really well for you, while others may not quite fit you. So try taking a moment to get quiet, and ask yourself, "What can I do to help myself feel more compassion and love toward myself?" Don't force an answer -- just let the answer bubble up from inside you. If you find it hard to hear the answer that way, try writing out your question, and then your answer. See what you come up with. You know best what works for you -- and you have great wisdom inside you.
Above all -- have compassion for yourself and for where you're at. Remember that you are a truly loveable person -- and that you deserve only kind treatment, especially from yourself.
Regards from Ryan - Michelle Wagterveld and everyone that loves you and will love you.
No matter what you do or do not do, you are always loved. From where we are, we choose to only feel love and joy, freedom and knowing. All Non-Physical Beings feel like this, of their own choosing. That is why humans call this Heaven, you see.
We are you. Right in this moment.
Your Soul is among that which is us, as we are a compilation of your (all who are asking for our knowing) Souls. You are always here in Source, even when the Being that is you choose to focus a notion of Itself into a physical body.
Your soul is not within you but instead exist in a grander, more far-reaching plane, and you and your Soul is always connected to each other. (You are One. You are your Soul.)
Your Soul feels only love for you.
No matter what you do, or do not do, your Soul never gets angry, disappointed or worried. When you feel this way, when you do not feel good, what it means is that you are keeping yourself apart from your Soul, disconnecting yourself from You.
But no matter how lonely you may feel, your Soul is always there for you, and it is your choice to be Who You Really Are, or not.
No matter what you do, you are eternally loved. There is no Hell, every being goes straight to Heaven when they die.
There is nothing you have to do. We love you as you are, you do not have to change, and you do not have to deserve love, for it is your birthright.
Every being is totally loved.
Even murderers are eternally loved by us, no matter what they have “done”.
This can be hard to understand, but it is like this:
Every being, every human, is always doing the best they can from where they are. No one can do more than their best, can they?
And no one can hurt another unless they invite it by their vibration. There are no “victims”. You are not helpless, you are All-Powerful, as are all Beings.
Can you feel it?
No matter what you do, we love you.
We are IN LOVE with you.
As the one you are.
Now.
You could go out and kill everyone you meet, and we will still love you in the same boundless way.
No matter what you do, you are loved.
There is nothing you can do to change it. Nothing.
If you don’t feel loved, that is not because you are not loved.
You are.
Always.
Eternally.
When you don’t feel loved, it is only because the way you are thinking is differing from the way your Soul is thinking, and therefore holding you and You apart. Of course that feels bad. But it is in your power to change it, and only you can change how you feel.
It is your choice how you feel.
We choose to think in a way that makes us always feel love, joy and happiness. Now we know that it is easier for us. It is supposed to be that way, it is for a reason this is so.
You are where you are, who you are, to peruse the contrast and come to conclusions about new things that you now want to be.
You are supposed to find things that do not feel so great, and then want the opposite. That is how new things are wanted into being, that is how life moves forward eternally, and All-That-Is becomes more.
There is nothing wrong with you for not feeling bliss all the time. It is your job not to.
But it will be much more fun for you if you learn again how to become your fresh desire while you are in physical form (when you die you will become it anyway), for it is more fun, we agree, to get the things you want too, and not just want and want new things that never happen (’til you are dead).
That is why you asked for this, why we are here to help you remember what you once knew; that you create your life and all that is in it by the way you think.
We know all there is to know about you.. and we still love you.
=TIPS HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF IN ANYWAY=
Ask for a list of things people like about you.
Sometimes it can be hard to find things we like or love about ourselves. So -- ask other people to tell you all the things they like about you. Ask a friend, a lover, a therapist. This isn't a replacement for your own love; it's a first step in learning to love yourself. You may need to hear the things other people like about you before you can value them in youself.
If hearing what people like about you is hard, ask your friends to write it down for you, or leave it on your voice mail, so you can read/listen to it over and over. Go back to it as many times as you can. Even if you don't believe that someone can like a particular thing about you, or you don't believe it exists, trust that your friend does see it and value it.
When you start to hear critical voices inside your head, go back to those things your friend said/wrote about you, and remember that you are loved.
Make a list of the things you like about yourself.
Make a list of all the things you like about yourself. Be as honest as you can. Modesty doesn't help you here; neither do old critical messages. If you're having trouble finding things you value about yourself, think about the things you value and love in your friends, then see if those things exist inside you, too. Most often, they do.
Fill a special notebook with your list, or create a set of cards. Make the notebook as beautiful as you can -- make it something that makes you feel good when you look at it. Then open it up and look at it any time you're feeling down or critical about yourself, or any time anyone says anything that triggers your criticalness of yourself.
Look at this good-things-about-yourself book as frequently as you can. It may seem silly, but repetition really does make a difference. (Just think of the impact one critical phrase said by a parent over and over to a child can have. It really does have an effect! Now try to give that child inside you at least one truly loving phrase about yourself that s/he can hold on to.)
Make it part of your daily routine to praise something in yourself or think about something you like about yourself.
In this society, we're taught that praising ourselves is selfish and wrong. But praising ourselves for things that are good about ourselves only helps us. It is a healing thing to do, something that nourishes our self-worth. When we love ourselves, we're happier and more true to our own selves...and that happiness and ability to be free spreads to others.
So...try to think of something that you like about yourself, or something that you did today that made you or someone else feel good -- no matter how small it may seem. Give yourself the kind of warm praise that you would a friend.
Love yourself like a friend
Close your eyes and think of a person you deeply love and trust, and who you know loves you-- a friend, a lover. Think about all the things you love and appreciate about them. Notice how that love feels inside you, how it makes you feel good.
Now turn it around the other way -- be your friend, feeling that same deep love for you. Trust in their love for you, and just feel it. Let yourself see your self through gentle eyes, with compassion and love the way your friend does, even if you can only do it for a moment. Now let yourself receive that love, the love you have as a friend to yourself. Feel the warmth move through you. Remember how it feels, and come back to that love another time.
Make a note every time someone says something nice about you.
Every time someone tells you something about yourself that makes you feel good, write it down or make a mental note and jot it down later. When you get home, put that note in a container of "good things about me." Decorate the container however you like. Keep on adding notes, and read them over every time you need a little boost -- and even when you don't feel like you do.
Have compassion for yourself.
If you're feeling really judgemental about something you've done or said, try to understand where the judgement is coming from. Not the immediate, surface answer, but an answer deep down inside you. Are you afraid of something, or are you feeling insecure? Do you think you did something "wrong," or are you hearing the judgement of a voice from your past? Try to connect to that little kid inside of you who's feeling that way, and really listen to how s/he's feeling. Hug and reassure that kid, and let her/him know that s/he didn't do anything wrong, and that you love her/him.
You can also think of a friend having acted as you did. Imagine how you'd feel towards them -- how you'd still love them and readily forgive them if there was anything to forgive. You probably wouldn't even find it bothersome! Try to feel that same love and compassion for yourself.
Recognize that the love has to come from you.
If you're a survivor of child abuse or come from a dysfunctional family, you may still be waiting for a parent to give you the love and acceptance you never got as a child. But the kind of love you need (or needed as a child) probably isn't going to come from a parent who abused you or who looked the other way while you were being abused. But it can come from yourself.
It can be hard to give it to yourself at first -- after all, if you didn't receive love as a child, or if some of that love was torn away from you by violence, self-hate may have built up inside you. But you have the courage and strength to love yourself, if you've survived this long. And you do deserve it!
So try to connect to that little child inside, that child who deserves all of your love and acceptance.
Use Affirmations
I know, I know, this sounds corny. But if you hear good things about yourself over and over, you can't help but have some of it sink in.
Write out strong, loving things to say to yourself, even if you don't fully believe them. Some examples are:
"I utterly and completely deserve love and kindness,"
"I am a very loveable person,"
"I am kind, compassionate, intelligent, and wise." (or subsitute the words for loving words that you feel best suit you.
Now put up those affirmations in places you'll see them every day -- on the fridge, on the bathroom mirror, on your bedside table, next to your favourite chair, on the kitchen wall next to where you cook your food or eat a meal. Don't forget to read them.
If you're not comfortable having them up in such public places, then write out a bunch of them (or copies of a few) and put them in places you'll find them -- in your jacket or jeans pocket, in a book you're reading or a favourite book, in your desk drawer, in with your clothes. They're little love notes to yourself. In fact, you may want to do both things -- have them up and also hidden in places where you'll find them.
When you read an affirmation, read it slowly, and really let yourself feel it. Don't just say it by rote. Try to let yourself be there as fully as you can.
Recognize Self-Critical Messages -- and Talk to Them
It's easy to let old, critical voices and messages that we heard as a child play over and over in our minds, without stopping them. Often we may barely recognize that they are there, or we don't really listen to them, we've heard them so often -- but they continue to impact how we feel and think about ourselves.
Try noticing next time you hear a small (or very loud) voice inside your head criticize you. Be aware of what it is saying to you, and try to talk to it. Ask it why it feels it needs to say those things. Is that part of you trying to protect you, in some child-like logic? Or perhaps that part of you felt it had to take on the messages you heard as a kid. Remind that part of you that you no longer need to do that to survive. You are free to make up your own mind about yourself.
Counteract Negative or Critical Thoughts About Yourself
Write down all the negative or critical thoughts and messages you hear inside your head. See if you can figure out who first said them to you (or said something of that nature). Then write out a response that counteracts each of those messages, one by one. Make the counter messages as strong and loving as you can.
If you're having trouble writing out counter messages, see if you can connect to a deep, wise part inside of you. Or write out what you would say to a friend if a friend said those things about her/himself.
Do Comforting and Nurturing Things For Yourself
Allow yourself to do comforting and nurturing things for yourself. Let yourself feel how good you feel when you do those things -- and tell yourself that you deserve to feel that way, to feel good. Gradually you'll find that the more nurturing and comforting times you have, the more you'll seek them out -- and they will help build a good feeling inside you.
Ask Yourself What You Need to Do
Some of these things will work really well for you, while others may not quite fit you. So try taking a moment to get quiet, and ask yourself, "What can I do to help myself feel more compassion and love toward myself?" Don't force an answer -- just let the answer bubble up from inside you. If you find it hard to hear the answer that way, try writing out your question, and then your answer. See what you come up with. You know best what works for you -- and you have great wisdom inside you.
Above all -- have compassion for yourself and for where you're at. Remember that you are a truly loveable person -- and that you deserve only kind treatment, especially from yourself.
Regards from Ryan - Michelle Wagterveld and everyone that loves you and will love you.